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My Divorce is over - What Next?

Whether you chose to leave or whether it was your spouse’s decision, divorce can be one of the biggest stressors that can happen to you during your lifetime. Another big stressor is moving house. Quite often these two go hand in hand. So it’s no surprise if you’re feeling totally wiped out and emotionally drained by it all.

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Coaching after Divorce

So what I want to say here is really important: There is life after divorce. I’ll say it again - louder this time:

There is Life After Divorce!

It will be a different life, there’s no question about that. But with the right attitude and a good support team in place, you can start planning how you’re going to ditch the victim mode, throw away the baggage and think about your future in a positive way. And here’s why you need to do that - because if you don’t, you’ll have no fun and you’ll end up carrying those feelings of unhappiness and bitterness around with you for the rest of your life.

This is an amazing opportunity for you to plan the life that you want to live. You don’t have to live life on his terms any more. Step up, be proud to be a singleton. It doesn’t mean you are going to be single for the rest of your life. This is who you are now. Celebrate and enjoy your new status. It may seem very difficult to start with, particularly if you have had a long marriage, but you can and will build an amazing new life if you choose to.

I remember a client of mine, let’s call her Mrs C. She had been married for 35 years and her husband decided to “trade me in for a new model” as she put it. Naturally, she was very upset and every time she came in to see me she was in floods of tears, worried about where she would live, whether she’d have any money and how lonely she’d be. Even though her husband hadn’t treated her well for years, she was clinging on to the familiarity. A year or so after her divorce, I happened to meet her in the street. She told me that after coming to terms that she was going to be alone for the rest of her life, she’d met a lovely man and they were enjoying a close relationship.

If you are still clinging on to the past, still thinking about your ex and wishing you were back with him, or if you’re thinking why did this happen to you, you haven’t completed the grieving process. The end of a divorce means the death of the marriage, and like a death, there is loss. You need to come to terms with that loss before you can move on.

No two people are the same and for some it takes longer than others.  Divorce coaches are great for giving you a safe and nurturing environment to help you work through it.  When you have completed the grieving process and moved on to the “Acceptance” stage, that’s the time you’ll be ready to move forward.

Book a Complimentary Session with me

During this complimentary 30 minute session:

  • we’ll check in that you understand what the grieving process is
  • why you need to work through it and
  • what you can do to get over the past so you’re ready to think about your future in a positive way

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If you’re ready to learn how to ditch the baggage and move forward with confidence claim your complimentary session now.

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